FEAR ISN’T THE PROBLEM

It’s the expectations we attach to it.

In her book Connect, Carole Robin shares a helpful way to think about fear: it often comes from False Expectations Appearing Real.

Most speaking fear comes from stories we tell ourselves – that it should feel easy, that nerves mean we’re not ready, that we must deliver a perfect performance.

Those expectations aren’t real.

Fear is natural.

Every speaker feels it.

What matters is not eliminating fear but stepping up despite it.

When you treat fear as part of the process, you give yourself the chance to grow.